We’re both parents. This is not a list to say that dads should be doing more, not at all…
This list shows the normality of parenting with both a mum and a dad working together, applying teamwork and being parents. It’s not for everyone but it works for us.
This is a personal list showing how things work in our house and after 7 children and 25 years of parenting it still stands as firm today as it did in the 90’s.
Mostly it’s how YOU decide to work together as parents, what works for you is the best course of action. There are no rights or wrongs in parenting.
Sometimes the workload isn’t shared, or a parent may be going it alone due to circumstance, but when two parents are there then the workload is/should shared. You both took on the role.
Find your own preferences to which chores/roles you both fill. How work/home life may define the work-load balance for you both takes time and is trial and error. But regardless, parenting is a 24 hour a day job which you both partake in, you both signed up for.
Mr FD is a steel worker on 12 hour shifts but still manages to fulfill his role as a parent alongside that. That’s two jobs that equal a 24 hour a day shift.
I recently became a stay at home mum and without him chipping in when he comes home my work would never be complete. I work 24 hours as a stay at home mum.
We/together/both work 24hours a day at parenting.
And I am grateful that we can work together as a team.