We’re Both Parents
We’re both parents. This is not a list to say that dads should be doing more, not at all.
This list shows the normality of parenting with both a mum and a dad working together, applying teamwork and being parents. It’s not for everyone but it works for us.
This is a personal list showing how things work in our house and after 8 children and over 30 years of parenting it still stands as firm today as it did in the 90s.
Mostly it’s how YOU decide to work together as parents; what works for you is the best course of action. There are no rights or wrongs in parenting.
Sometimes the workload isn’t shared, or a parent may be going it alone due to circumstances, but when two parents are there then the workload is/should shared. You both took on the role.
Find your preferences as to which chores/roles you both fill. How work/home life may define the workload balance for you both takes time and is trial and error. But regardless, parenting is a 24-hour-a-day job which you both partake in, you both signed up for.
Mr FD is a steel worker on 12-hour shifts but still manages to fulfil his role as a parent too. That’s two jobs that equal a 24-hour-a-day shift.
I recently became a stay-at-home mum and without him chipping in when he comes home my work would never be complete. I work 24 hours as a stay-at-home mum.
We/together/both work 24 hours a day at parenting.
And I am grateful that we can work together as a team.